I’m getting ready to send out invites for my summer wedding but have a small concern. I’m afraid that some invited guests will see the invitation and assume that their entire household is invited, instead of just the adults the invite was intended for. I have a fixed number of seats for the wedding and reception and want to make sure that only the invited guests RSVP for the event. Any tips?
Dear Bride-To-Be,
I’m so glad you asked this question because this is a frequent concern for brides and grooms. I’ve seen situations where five people RSVP to an invitation, when the invite was actually only intended for two. It’s also not unheard of for someone to add a “plus one” to their RSVP when only one was really invited in the first place.
Nothing is worse than having to inform someone who RSVP'd for your wedding that they actually weren’t invited after all. So, as you prepare your invites, keep the following points in mind to prevent this from happening:
The outer envelope for your invitation should make it very clear who the invitation is intended for and who is invited. So, for example, if you want to invite the whole Jones family, your invitation should be addressed to Mister and Misses Jones and Family. If only Mr. & Mrs. Jones are invited, the wording should simply say Mister and Misses Jones.
It is always polite to give single guests the option of bringing a date. So, if your friend Ashley Smith is welcome to bring the new guy she’s dating, the invitation should be addressed to Miss Ashley Smith and Guest. But, if only Ashley is invited because you want to use this opportunity to set her up with your fiancée’s handsome cousin, simply address the envelope to Miss Ashley Smith.
Regardless of the how the invitation envelope is addressed, you still may have some not so savvy wedding goers that think they can bring a date or their children. If you’re still concerned you can also use the RSVP card to reinforce who is invited. Consider the following layouts:
We have reserved___ seat(s) in your honor.
M__________________________________
__Accept with pleasure
__Decline with regret
OR
M__________________________________
____of _2_ accept with pleasure
These recommendations should have you covered. However, in the off chance that someone you invited still RSVPs for an uninvited guest, this is where your wedding planner comes in. Your planner will respectfully and kindly call your guest to inform them that while the bride and groom would love to celebrate their day with the entire Jones family, unfortunately only blank number of seats have been reserved for them.
Good luck!
Fabulously Ever After
4 comments:
Great post and wonderful advice!
What about people who don't RSVP at all? And what about people who RSVP a certain number of guests, but then show up with extras? Yes, this sounds absurd--but I think I know several people who fit into one of those two categories...
For invited guests who don't RSVP at all, don't assume that they are not coming. It may have just slipped their mind. If they still have not responded 3 weeks before your wedding, have your wedding planner or a friend or family member call them to verify whether they plan to attend or not.
In the event that a guest shows up with more guests than they RSVPd for, this is again where your wedding planner comes in. They will kindly inform them that only a certain number of seats have been reserved for them per their RSVP. Once all guests have been seated, there will likely be some leftover seats that can accomodate a limited number of extras. Otherwise your planner will nicely get rid of the crashers, at least until after the dinner portion is over.
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